What are the Basic Rights & Duties of a Wife Towards Her Husband?
Query:
What are the Basic Rights & Duties of a Wife Towards Her Husband?
Answer:
Just as Almighty Allah has made some duties of the husband towards the wife, He has also made some duties of the wife towards her husband. To fulfil these duties is an obligation and means of great blessing.
Once a girl becomes an adult, it is necessary for the parents to arrange for her marriage.
When arranging for her marriage, they should be sure to choose a husband for her, who is Sunni Sahihul Aqida and not any budmazhab (i.e. deviant such as wahabi, shia etc.)
They should find someone who is a religious person, and one who is pious. Remember that Nikah is the Sunnah of the Beloved Rasool ﷺ and a means of gaining piety and being protected from evil.
The Respect of The Husband:
Almighty Allah has made man the Guardian (protector) over his wife. It is for this reason that it is compulsory upon the wife to be obedient to her husband and honour him, like he should respect and honour her.
Remember, that to please the husband is a great Ibaadat, and to disrespect him and be disobedient to him is a sin. The status of the husband is very exalted.
The Beloved Rasool ﷺ said,
If I had to command Sajdah (prostration) for anyone but Allah, then I would have commanded the women to make Sajdah to their husbands.
[Mishkaat Shareef Vol.2 Pg.281]
The Beloved Rasool ﷺ also said that,
a woman who passes away from this world and her husband was pleased with her, then she will enter Jannat.
The Rights & Duties Of A Wife Towards Her Husband:
She should fulfil all her Deeni duties, and be punctual in all her Fard actions etc.
The wife should not leave the home to go anywhere without the permission of her husband.
In the absence of the husband, the wife should not give any belongings of her husband to any person. In his absence, it is an obligation upon her to protect all his belongings, and without his permission, she should not allow any person into the home.
A women should never do any such action that will cause the husband to become upset.
To care and educate the children in the absence of the husband is also a great duty for her.
It is necessary for her to keep herself pure and clean at all times, always dressing neatly and looking presentable, so that her husband may be pleased when he looks at her.
It is necessary for every wife to understand the manner and habits of her husband, in other words, to know his likes and dislikes and not to act contrary to these.
It is from her duties not to become angry when he says anything to her, and not to argue or backtalk with him. Rather she should comfort and calm him if he is upset.
She should not be demanding and should try her best to live in accordance with his income and not beyond his means. She should not be wasteful with his wealth.
As long as her in laws are alive, it is necessary for her to respect them. Never disappoint your husband’s parents.
References:
Extracts from Bahar e Shariat of Sadr al Shariah, Allama Amjad Ali Aazmi.
Mishkat al-Masabih.
[ English Translation ]
Mufti Afthab Cassim al-Qadri Ridawi Noori,
Imam Mustafa Raza Research Center,
Durban, South Africa.